Morgaine | My Amplog

The author makes a huge effort to force her point of view on non-monogamy when she questions how “screwing other people” can contribute to the sanctity of love. Her litany of examples is designed to make non-monogamy sound callous and dirty, and, again, all about sex. Removing the sexual mud-slinging, the sanctity-of-love argument stems from a fear that love is scarce and limited; that love and intimacy with one lover must necessarily take away love, or the quality of love, from another lover. If you’re monogamous, that makes intuitive sense; but when you examine the feelings behind that intuition, it’s not LOVE that is being diminished. It’s actually the risk of “dirtying” the comfort of love with other threatening feelings. The threat is emotions of fear (jealousy, envy, challenge to self-worth, etc) that seem to take away from the purity of love. This is understandable, but fear needs to be exposed for what it is, not mixed with the love somehow.Read more at www.care2.com